This topic is a dangerous one to approach, but it has seemingly proven to become more and more popular amongst couples (both daters and married partners). Most threesomes are assumed two females with one male, as some ladies may recall “experimenting” in college… but that is not always the case—especially if the person requesting the threesome is a lady! I have never had the interest/invite to partake in any combination of threesome, but once I started talking to fellow girlfriends—to my surprise, it’s more common than I realized.
I recently spoke with a girlfriend about her experience: she and her boyfriend had shared plenty of discussions about the matter, and she continually urged him to partake in a threesome, inviting a man in as the third party. On a weekend escape, he decided to surprise her by inviting one of his “willing” friends along. He told her to get a feel for the friend on the car ride out. She was open-minded and thought everything felt ok. She explained to me later, that even though it was her fantasy originally, she wasn’t feeling “into” it as much as she had hoped for. Sadly, the experience that weekend left her feeling worse than ever, leaving her unable to face her boyfriend again. They are currently still apart. Oddly, she was the instigator of the threesome, so what went wrong??
Due to the fact that I gratefully abide to a monogamous relationship with my husband, I do not know from personal experience. I assume the problem faced in my girlfriend’s situation came from her lack of participation in “choosing” the third party. Her boyfriend had very good intentions on trying to surprise her, trying to make her fantasy come alive, but the weekend should have been more prepared. She should have taken part in choosing their third party—possibly that third party should have been a stranger?
Whether or not the third party has been mutually selected by both people in the relationship, the outcome will never be known. If you have a desire to invite a third individual (either male or female) into your relationship—you might find the outcome disrupting. Fantasies are called fantasies for a reason. Continuing to fantasize might be far enough. Once it has been brought to reality, you chance changing the levels of respect, love, trust and carnal attraction you hold with your significant other. Beware of your desires before taking your relationship that far out. Be sure both parties are equally “into” the situation before risking losing the relationship altogether. And above all, BE SAFE!!!
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We have had plenty of 3somes. The relationship doesn’t change with men as they are programmed for “new” and since women are programmed for “stability” they’re a 100 times more likely to become jealous.
Ladies take my advice and save yourself the false hope of thinking you’re the last person your partner will want to sleep with and last pussy your man will ever want to see. Whether he likes taking a turn with the boy you share your bed with or the girl who takes you back to your college days…do yourself a favor and learn to share.
That doesn’t mean have a sleep over. Set ground rules. No uncomfortable dates and take a page from the armed services code of conduct and make sure “no man (or woman) is left behind”. For us, that translates as you have to be into both of us or forget about it. 1-sided 3somes are not a 3-some. Be safe and fuck off-ten!